This woman had all of their childhood to fight hard authoritarian father – for their right to not be such as he wants. And she remained a huge insult to his mother for what she, cherishing his infantilism, in fact, teamed with him against her child. For the time being such an ugly model works. Fear of rejection, rejection, dislike supports guilt. If the mother is upset, offended, displeased – comes Riven and tormented wine. Guilty person easily manipulated, even though he tries to protect themselves by using different strategies – such as distancing. But wine is not very much considered a factor in the distance.
She continues to torture, even when people live in different countries. It is impossible for life to live with repressed feelings – they find their way in the form of neurosis, depression, illness. Professional patient – one of the next scenarios. None of these women who came to see me, did not blame his mother in their difficulties. All they were interested in a completely different problem – for example: why not an awkward relationship with their children, husbands, parents. Almost all first convince me that everything is good – is only one snag All the pain, they were in themselves – the pain rejection, rejection, betrayal – was buried under a thick layer of psychological defenses. Psyche thus protects us from every second of pain that we would have experience.
Due to the same protection we are convinced that "all the same thing happens," this generation of Soviet times, and it was hard "and" they did not have psychologists. And not in any way relate what is happening to us now with his childhood. After all, it has long ended, and the page is closed. But the mind does not know the concept of time. For her, everything continues to exist and actually affect our lives. And we can even feel myself quite bearable. True, it does does not protect us from the fact that the world irritate old injuries, and they hurt and bleed. Somehow, over and over again we are someone betrays, rejects, dislikes. And again we find ourselves in our primary experience. If we deny your injury, we do not the possibility of its cure. Our offense will forever remain in the structure of the psyche, and will "fonit" from there, changing our view of the world. And, anyway, we keep its destructive models and give them to succeeding generations. But many Still looking for a way – and find it. Someone reads professional literature, someone is practicing yoga, one becomes a psychologist. You can get rid of the heavy legacy, if you look inside yourself. Agreeing to admit the truth of his family history and otplakav bitterness of the emotional trauma, we can get rid of it. And free from it for their children.