The behavior seems only negative because they do not know its purpose. NLP is responsible for giving us the means to achieve those goals of self-knowledge, more effective alternative means to expand our choices as human beings. – All behavior is determined shaft in Context: It is necessary to analyze all behavior in the light of the context or environment where it develops, because otherwise such behavior may seem illogical, unreasonable, or inappropriate. Depending on the cultures, ages, education and status that leads to the survival instinct is accepted behavior and sometimes not. – All people have potential with all the resources necessary for change and to act efficiently: Throughout our history we have accumulated many personal experiences, which we can extract the resources needed to develop as people much more evolved, face tastefully and flexibility in any circumstance that comes our way. It's a question of wanting to do and act accordingly. – The mode in which we communicate is in the response we get: This has to do with our flexibility as communicators, and implies that it would be desirable to adjust and refine our communication in order to get the answer we want, and not assume that the failure is the recipient of our communication.

The way we communicate, voice, rhythm, cadence, emphasis, message, intention, speed, waiting time for the other to respond etc. is vital for a good relationship. – People respond to their map of reality and not reality itself: Because both filters or neurological limitations, see for social education, or individual of our perception, we can only create maps of reality in our internal representations and is based on these maps as to how we act and perceive that we respond to stimuli.