Order the most effective if it is uttered several times clearly and firmly, without emotional coloring. Children do not need perfect parents, they need parents who are doing everything they can, and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Apologize later, it is very important. Can say: "I'm sorry I yelled at you. You have not done anything like that on you scream. In general cry – not a method of communication.
It's my fault. " Very difficult to educate the children good quality, if we are by their own actions force them to consider themselves poor. Obviously, one of the worst forms of communication – the cry. If a man cries, it means that he can not hear, so he is forced to increase the volume. Yelling at children or teenagers, you would like convey a message to them: "You do not listen." As a result, a child and really stop to listen. When you go to a cry baby just turned off and does not hear anything. When a man starts to cry, it means that he has ceased to command and began to demand. If you do not hold a grudge against a child, he does not hold a grudge against you.
Besides too emotional behavior, another mistake on the part of parents – an attempt to justify his orders. If a child asks about something neutral tone, then you can really explain why you want him to do that and then some. But if a child asks provocatively, should give him an answer that you are willing to talk about this later.
Evening. A tired man with a package of yogurt, a piece of cheese and a loaf of bread was crawling towards the house, satisfied with a half-hour meeting with you. Tolls on the door, running toward him children. With cries of: "Hooray, father came!". The wife calmly and kindly feeding it with different delicious meal. Quiet dinner in front of tv and information exchange for the day: the kids that work, long ago, we did not have Sidorov.
No one's wife is not coming in head to meet her husband after work, a question: do you love another woman? And no man would dream tell his wife that he finally met that unique, ie "Sun", "joy", "breath of fresh air." 5.No like well neither did he and you (to you from the fact that well-beloved), a second sobering you can try to ask him the fateful question: "Darling, what's next?". Oh, he'll find the answer to you, sighing deeply and looking down: a) "Wait baby "b)" In life there are circumstances that are stronger than us ", c)" Do not idle talk their nerves "d)" I'm not worthy "e)" It's a good thing that we do not interfere with everyday life. " There are objective facts, when to leave the family really impossible, such as illness of his wife. But in most cases, the man simply does not want to take responsibility, make a decision. He understands perfectly well that they feel in this situation, the Women. And he finds out not to think about this. Quite typical: 'I know that it will never marry, but to her about it will never tell. " Why? I lost it, and it suits me in all respects.
" What to do? Do not be afraid that if you put him to strict conditions the man is gone. Go away – and thank God. Otherwise, this game – anyone who would chip – can last a very long time. If you decide to break off the relationship, be prepared for the fact that it hurts. You think – you'll never find him? This did not find this is true. So after all and the one you dopridumyvali in his fantasies, in fact, was not. But sometimes, taking the man by the chest, pouring on him a torrent of words, in response you hear one of silence. Silent, he is actually only because it is already defined on your account. And if he decided to myself: I want this woman and not another, he will go and try to persuade you. Blessed are usually women who know how to love yourself. How to learn it? Divide a sheet of paper on the two parts. On one side write their own positive qualities, on the other – negative. And to see a list of your strengths rather big. And then – tear off the second half, discard and forget.
Surely a baby is like music. Now there are many different "audio" for babies, some of them, for example, attached to the crib and soothe the baby lullabies songs. You can give him a disk with the quieter tunes, under which so nice to fall asleep, and can present a collection of children's songs performed by the children (as young as two months pipsqueak will be happy to "sing"). Now crumb becomes interested in toys. It's time to get to him a few bright and voiced rattles. Since their cost is usually not too high to buy as a gift can be a "set": let the parents give the kid a toy one, then another – and soon he had to learn to distinguish between them. An excellent gift today will wear. Many children are only in this age begin dress in shirts and sliders to this content with only undershirts and diapers.
Do not be afraid that nadarennoy clothes may be too much. As practice shows, fine crumb to cope with a mountain of clothes (sorry, Mom then All this is not so easy to wash and iron). By the way, always a welcome gift is nappies (diapers): baby feels them much more comfortable, and the parents relaxed. The second celebration of childbirth all likes to swim. Therefore, you can give yourself to create a set for bathing. Let it will include shampoo, skin, herbs for brewing (motherwort calms, a succession of saves from irritation of the skin), oil (Lavender helps to fall asleep easier and sleep tight).