Order the most effective if it is uttered several times clearly and firmly, without emotional coloring. Children do not need perfect parents, they need parents who are doing everything they can, and take responsibility for their own mistakes. Apologize later, it is very important. Can say: "I'm sorry I yelled at you. You have not done anything like that on you scream. In general cry – not a method of communication.
It's my fault. " Very difficult to educate the children good quality, if we are by their own actions force them to consider themselves poor. Obviously, one of the worst forms of communication – the cry. If a man cries, it means that he can not hear, so he is forced to increase the volume. Yelling at children or teenagers, you would like convey a message to them: "You do not listen." As a result, a child and really stop to listen. When you go to a cry baby just turned off and does not hear anything. When a man starts to cry, it means that he has ceased to command and began to demand. If you do not hold a grudge against a child, he does not hold a grudge against you.
Besides too emotional behavior, another mistake on the part of parents – an attempt to justify his orders. If a child asks about something neutral tone, then you can really explain why you want him to do that and then some. But if a child asks provocatively, should give him an answer that you are willing to talk about this later.