I have long said that one of the “secrets” of coaching is forgiveness. Forgiveness has its finger off the dock of the past that might be the future flow. Buddha said: “Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past.” It is a total act of will, requiring only a softening of the heart. But how do you forgive the unforgivable? Like millions of Americans, I have been steeped in this paradox. D-Day + 64 was very difficult. Honoring our dead in the midst of our current war increased this conflict for me. How I can coach people to forgive when I am having difficulty forgiving? I discussed this with people I deeply respect, trust and love. I share with you.
Forgiveness is the release of the bands in your heart that interfere with forward motion. A forgiving behavior is not give his approval. The apology is like ignoring, looking the other way. Forgiveness is what allows you to look without letting your own history interfere. Personally, I can forgive our soldiers for their appalling behavior and continue working as hard as I can to change this administration. But here is a totally spiritual.
This is a view I have. I am of the view that the purpose of life? for each of us? is to be as close to G_d as possible. So every time something bad happens to us, I contend that we are given another opportunity to advance spiritually closer to G_d. I call it “find the pencil” theory of the universe. When you come to get more votes and more positive? “You’re getting hot, hot, hot, hot.” And when you respond differently, the universe provides you with increasingly negative information? “Fresh, cold, cold?” So forgive our soldiers is an opportunity for spiritual growth. You can really empathize with those who are angry because the universe has given weight to be that way. Apart from a cousin, all my relatives in World War II have died. The war exists for I like memory and my experiences as a youth. I remember going on a train from Brooklyn to Miami and be “adopted” by a group of soldiers? a milestone reminded of my childhood? And going to Ebbets Field to see the Dodgers? I sat in the stands on the left, next to the section reserved for the military? I loved it. I have a picture of myself at age seven, wearing a full suit of soldier I love my country. As unfortunate army forgive you today, I can get my love, my hero worship, and my deep respect for these brave young men, willing, but without knowing it.