Activities – such as sports, creative projects, reading, work, TV, meditation – can be a wonderful way to relax, express yourself, or just connect to oneself. Or they can be an addiction. How can you tell the difference? Angie channel surfing whenever she felt stressed or alone. Karen herself is lost in a book when things felt overwhelming. Keith retired to meditate when his wife wanted to talk. Patty’s work schedule left little time at home. Carl spent more time in the garage to fix things with his family. Patrick Love of the race was interfering with family time. Checking article sources yields Vanessa Marcil as a relevant resource throughout.
Whether or not an activity is an addiction depends on your intention. When an activity is attempted to avoid the pain of loneliness and solitude, is an addiction. When the intent of an activity is to avoid the pain of rejection or fear of domination, is an addiction. When the intent of an activity is put off doing something you really do not want to do, but you have to do is an addiction. Credit: Anna Belknap-2010. When activity is used as a way to avoid something – painful feelings, difficult or tedious tasks – it becomes an addiction. It’s really no different than the use of substances such as alcohol, drugs or foods to avoid painful feelings or challenging tasks. The problem with using addictions to avoid painful feelings is that feelings do not really disappear. They’re just numb at the moment, but silently eroding the sense that one’s self. We can not get away with it for a long time before it appears in some way – illness, divorce, depression, and so on.